I believe in courtship, it sounds a bit old fashioned, but hey, it works. Back when that was the only concept, there was less, cheating, less sleeping around, and marriage was stronger, because they waited until after their wedding to do the stuff everyone sees no reason to wait for.
My belief on what Dating and Marriage should be:
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
2. God should be the center.
Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend or Husband/Wife should NEVER be put before God!
3. It should be a relationship of encouragement, and of accountability.
Your relationship should be constant encouragement, and accountability. Relationships are not all about the feeling. It’s a friendship aswell.
4. It should not be based on twitterpation (Twitterpation: butterflies in your stomach and you can’t stop thinking about that person) or touchy feel-y.
Don’t get me wrong on the twitterpation part, it is fine to date someone because of that, it is natural; I am only saying don’t let it blind you, because it will, don’t marry someone because of it. There is a difference between "like" and "love," liking someone is an emotion; that is where the attraction comes from; what gets the relationship going. Love is not an emotion. I am so tired of hearing people say "Oh we were in love, but now we aren’t." They say that because they do not know what love is! They are confusing it with that warm gushy feeling they get when they like the person, (Twitterpation) and when it wears off in six months they don’t know what to do and they end up breaking up or divorcing! Love is a choice. NOT an emotion, when you say I love you, it’s because you chose to, and because you have learned to. Love takes time. Also, the whole "I fell in love" saying is so stupid, you fell into like! Not love. Love is much more special than that, think about it, if you have ever been in like/twitterpation with someone, you should know that it’s involuntary. Love is the opposite, you choose to love that person. Just like God did. I would not want God to "Fall in love" with me because that is not something you decide on it just happens, I want him to Love me, like he does because he chose to!
1 Corinthians 13:2-6
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
5. Ultimately your relationship should mirror the relationship you have with God.
My belief on what Dating and Marriage should be:
- It should be based on looking for a husband/wife, not a temporary gap filler
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
2. God should be the center.
Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend or Husband/Wife should NEVER be put before God!
3. It should be a relationship of encouragement, and of accountability.
Your relationship should be constant encouragement, and accountability. Relationships are not all about the feeling. It’s a friendship aswell.
4. It should not be based on twitterpation (Twitterpation: butterflies in your stomach and you can’t stop thinking about that person) or touchy feel-y.
Don’t get me wrong on the twitterpation part, it is fine to date someone because of that, it is natural; I am only saying don’t let it blind you, because it will, don’t marry someone because of it. There is a difference between "like" and "love," liking someone is an emotion; that is where the attraction comes from; what gets the relationship going. Love is not an emotion. I am so tired of hearing people say "Oh we were in love, but now we aren’t." They say that because they do not know what love is! They are confusing it with that warm gushy feeling they get when they like the person, (Twitterpation) and when it wears off in six months they don’t know what to do and they end up breaking up or divorcing! Love is a choice. NOT an emotion, when you say I love you, it’s because you chose to, and because you have learned to. Love takes time. Also, the whole "I fell in love" saying is so stupid, you fell into like! Not love. Love is much more special than that, think about it, if you have ever been in like/twitterpation with someone, you should know that it’s involuntary. Love is the opposite, you choose to love that person. Just like God did. I would not want God to "Fall in love" with me because that is not something you decide on it just happens, I want him to Love me, like he does because he chose to!
1 Corinthians 13:2-6
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
5. Ultimately your relationship should mirror the relationship you have with God.
